Your partner said “Yes!” Congratulations on popping the question! The hard part is over but it’s not the end. Your fiancé may be doing most of the planning (after all, it’s their dream wedding) but it doesn’t mean you don’t have a role to play.
From establishing who’s in charge to giving your groomsmen gifts, here are 6 dos and don’ts to help you along the way:
DO #1: Establish that your fiancé is in charge of the wedding.
As well-meaning as your mother could possibly be, her calling your fiancé often could be trouble brewing. Prevent any fall-out by establishing that your partner is in-charge. If you sense your mom’s becoming too involved or she’s no longer making suggestions but mandating, make sure to talk to her in private. Ask her to keep calls to a minimum and to not take it personally if her recommendations are not approved.
DON’T #1: Stand in the sidelines and watch things slowly begin to burn.
Your fiancé will be bombarded with advice from your mother down to the person that sells flowers. Sometimes the advice will be welcome and well-received but there will be times when people over step their place. When this happens, don’t just stand in the side lines and have your partner handle these meddling busybodies. Let them know that you have their back and that you support their decision.
DO #2: Know that you still have a say.
Even if they already have every part of the wedding thought out, know that you still have a say. You can make your objections sound less harsh by offering it as a suggestion. If the eggshell-colored table napkins offend you in some way, suggest another color and offer to help them choose the motif for the wedding table. Try to compromise where you can and remember to keep their feelings in mind.
DON’T #2: Complaining and not doing anything.
Complaining and pointing out things you don’t like is a surefire way to get into an argument with your fiancé. Before you start critiquing their plans, make sure your tasks are ironed out. For your part, you need to choose a wedding party, prepare you and your wedding party’s attire, compile your guest list, arrange the marriage license and plan the honeymoon.
DO #3: Thanking your guests.
Your partner will probably be too tired or buzzed to entertain your guests when the big day arrives. After all the planning they’ve done, helping them handle the guests will be your main duty. Don’t just stand around with your friends, mingle around with other guests, make sure to greet everyone at the reception and thank them for their attendance.
DON’T #3: Forget to thank your groomsmen.
Taking care of your side of the entourage does not end with picking out what to wear. Your friends have spent time and money to walk you down the aisle, so it’s only apt to buy your groomsmen gifts as your token of appreciation. It doesn’t have to be fancy, something practical or personal will do just as well.
There is a long list of things to prepare for a wedding. Even if it’s a small intimate affair, your fiancé needs your help in getting things done. Unless you want a stressed-out partner, it’s important to know your duties as the groom-to-be. By following these tips, you can have a happy wedding and a happy life.
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Lilli Black is the owner of Bella Calla, a full-service high-end florist in Denver Colorado. She has been in the design industry for 15 years, and was raised around plants, flowers, and art. Bella Calla has allowed her love of all things growing, and her love of all things lovely to come together. 303.995.2867